At a certain gathering, a friend shared with me that her child is only a second grader, but the school already uses the third grade English textbook. The child learns hard, but the parents are also very painful. This friend did not want the child to be drowned in the setbacks of English so early, but the school told her that classes in the whole city are like this, and the parents of the whole school also This is what they do. If they don't cooperate, they won't be able to keep up with others. Another preschool parent tried to communicate with the child well when there was a problem or conflict, but it was not necessarily effective. Every time he tried to use a little authoritative parenting, he was criticized by the parents in the community. Saying this is outdated is not what parents should think at all. Parents work very hard and want to raise their children well, but they do not agree with the "open" parenting method in their hearts, but they cannot say this to their friends around them, which also causes them to not know how to discipline them at all. Child.
These parents look at the families in the community every day, and share how to be friends with their children, and how independent the children become, but when they look back at their children who make trouble all day long and do not study well, they can't help but wonder if they are one Disqualified parents. Parenting mainstream in social media today: open parents The online world is far and wide. When children enter the learning stage, many parents will take the initiative or join the parent community based on the necessity of some contact. Whether it is intentional number list or not, as a parent, you will begin to be exposed to various parenting messages, among which "open parenting" is the most extensive. Parents' social media is flooded with such videos, discourses, and "witnesses of parenting." Over time, the parents inside will feel, "Ah! That's how parents should be, and I want to be an open parent." Various movies, books, and dramas keep telling us: "We must conform to the child and not force it. Parents cannot impose their own expectations on the child, otherwise, you will not be far away from evil.
Watching everyone help the child Parent-child reading, heart-to-heart conversations, supplementing talents, outdoor outings, group camping, street play, etc., you also hope that you can become such a good parent. As long as they enter the parent group, all parents are baptized by the parenting culture of "open parents". Open parents, just a parenting culture But in fact, because of the deduction of social media big data and the stratosphere of interpersonal relationships, our imagination of parenting is actually limited. There are different people in society, and each family has different stories and backgrounds. How can there be only one way of parenting? You grew up in a different background than others, and your parenting style must also be different from others, which is very natural. As for your current life, it will not be completely determined by your parents' upbringing. The theoretical schools of education are very diverse, and open education is only one of them. Such educational value is rooted in the long history of democratic development in Western society.